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| horizon180 |
 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 10:25 am |
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SMILY
Joined: 26 Oct 2005
Posts: 495
Location: Manchester, UK
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@kikubelle: looks like i gave you very bad advice. gomen
@caffeinated: i never said all teenagers are immature  , but i can see why you think i did, ok, correct myself, i didn't mean to offend you caffeinated, nor any other members, what i meant was that maturity is something that comes with experience. knowing how to deal with situations, no one is mature to start with. we mature everyday, we are all more mature today than we were a week ago. as for you claiming that a lot of teenagers are more mature than many adults, maybe you're right. i just don't agree when girls say that boys are immature. its too much of a generalisation and i suppose with what i was saying, i was generalising, my bad. i am by no means making any assumptions about anything. you sound so angry, im sorry if i upset you.
as for having relationships with people of comparable maturity, i see your point.
looks like i haven't yet lost my "foot in mouth" habit, i guess i need to mature some more
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| Saaya |
| Posted: Apr 07, 2006 2:06 pm |
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金魚花火
Joined: 28 Dec 2005
Posts: 153
Location: Beijing
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I know some people who are very mature and people who are very immature..but I guess some people mature faster than others..depending on what they've been through and the things they learned...
But I think you're a good love doctor, horizon180!  Anyway..I'm gonna try to tell my friend that I'm not ready for a relationship... |
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| Skull Rabbit |
| Posted: Apr 07, 2006 3:23 pm |
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大好きだよ。
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 263
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Yeah Saaya if that is how you feel, it is the best decision to tell him that.
But maybe there is a chance for you guys in the future 
Its weird I think, most 14 year old girls around my area would like, kill to be in relationships that young haha. All they think about is boys haha. I remember those days, and my friends thought I was weird cause I wasn't interested in any haha |
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| caffeinated |
| Posted: Apr 07, 2006 10:53 pm |
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クムリウタ
Joined: 07 Feb 2006
Posts: 362
Location: Vancouver, CA.
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horizon180 wrote: @caffeinated: i never said all teenagers are immature , but i can see why you think i did, ok, correct myself, i didn't mean to offend you caffeinated, nor any other members, what i meant was that maturity is something that comes with experience. knowing how to deal with situations, no one is mature to start with. we mature everyday, we are all more mature today than we were a week ago. as for you claiming that a lot of teenagers are more mature than many adults, maybe you're right. i just don't agree when girls say that boys are immature. its too much of a generalisation and i suppose with what i was saying, i was generalising, my bad. i am by no means making any assumptions about anything. you sound so angry, im sorry if i upset you.
as for having relationships with people of comparable maturity, i see your point.
looks like i haven't yet lost my "foot in mouth" habit, i guess i need to mature some more
Lol sorry now I read it over I do sound a bit too angry (I wrote that in school and wasn't paying much attention on how i worded things @_@). I really wasn't upset; actually just wondeirng why you would say "teenagers are immature, period." lol. ^^; I usually don't associate maturity with age, because I know a lot of immature adults, also a lot of mature teens. "Age is a must but maturity is optional." xD;
I don't think you gave bad advice though! A lot of things you said were very helpful.  3 |
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| yuko |
| Posted: Apr 07, 2006 11:50 pm |
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ユメクイ
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
Posts: 1141
Location: italy
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thanks for ur advice, I noe it isn't good, but I tried to tell this to my bf. But he said he will kill himself if I'm not with him, and he was so sad... now I'm waitin', even if I dunno what I'm whatin' for > <
And I dont think my classmate loves me 
P.S: doctor LOVEhorizon is great <3  |
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| kikubelle |
| Posted: Apr 08, 2006 12:15 am |
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ユメクイ
Joined: 27 Jul 2005
Posts: 1026
Location: Toronto, Canada + Lalaland~
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yuko wrote: thanks for ur advice, I noe it isn't good, but I tried to tell this to my bf. But he said he will kill himself if I'm not with him, and he was so sad... now I'm waitin', even if I dunno what I'm whatin' for > <
And I dont think my classmate loves me
P.S: doctor LOVEhorizon is great <3
@yuko
Just tell him gently. Tell him that if he loved you he will not make you suffer. And if he died you will suffer. Tell him If he loved you he won't threaten you. If he loved you, he will know when to let go. If he loved you he will let you do what you want freely and not cage you like an animal. If he loved you he will trust your decision and not his intuition. Everyone has to move on and cannot linger any longer because if he doesn't let go now, he will only be more hurt in the end. Tell him that even if you are not boyfriend/girlfriend you guys still can be close friends. You don't want to let this stay like this anymore because there are enough bad relationships in the world. If he lets this go on, it will just be worst on each other. Things are not working out so why will they work out later? yuko, you need to tell him these things. He needs to know. Then that is when you can truly get what you want. Don't worry about your classmate. It starts with a crush and thus it wont take long until you guys are good friends and eventually lovers. Get to know him then decide whether you want to be with him or not. Some guys are cute but absolute jerks after you get to know them. Sorry if this offends anyone.
P.S. horizon is an extremely good love doctor!  |
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| yuko |
| Posted: Apr 08, 2006 6:34 am |
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ユメクイ
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
Posts: 1141
Location: italy
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kikubelle wrote: P.S. horizon is an extremely good love doctor!
and u too sis  thanks!! I'll try to sepak with him again... gambatte ne yuko! <3  |
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| Skull Rabbit |
| Posted: Apr 08, 2006 11:32 am |
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大好きだよ。
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
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| Yes, I wish you good luck with your situation yuko! kikubelle has such good advice too |
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| Lainay |
| Posted: Apr 08, 2006 12:44 pm |
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Joined: 21 May 2005
Posts: 641
Location: USA
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| In my opinion, 13 year olds such as me should not have boyfriends, so I don't even know why people younger than that do. |
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| Edvent |
| Posted: Apr 09, 2006 4:52 am |
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Happy Days
Joined: 15 Nov 2005
Posts: 122
Location: Germany
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kikubelle wrote: No, but I'm looking~ Well not literally...to me guys are so immature
and totally not worth spending so much time on...
shopping on the other hand is a better choice...
sorry if this offends any male members of ch-ai...
probably this is because guys never seem to be able to express themselves fully
Ha, are you really serious with that?
I found out that especially girls who say stuff like that are the immature ones.
Well, guys often may seem immature cause they act strange when they're toghether...but it's just the fact that they want to have fun.
I already met girls who said I was immature, too. Just because I'm partying with my friends very often.
Well, then I tried to talk to them about intellectual things... about values of live or about important literature in history (shakespear, goethe, schiller, kafka, fontane, etc...).
And guess what? They were... well I can just say... noobs.
They've had no own opinion. And no literature literacy.
All they cared about was clothes and beeing more popular than others.
Sry if this offends you, too.
But I'm compleatly conviced about that.  |
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| horizon180 |
| Posted: Apr 09, 2006 6:31 am |
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SMILY
Joined: 26 Oct 2005
Posts: 495
Location: Manchester, UK
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i think it should be reiterated that maturity is not a measure of knowledge or age, it is a measure of emotional stability and the ability to react coherently, calmly and responsibly in situations. *i think*
i do kind of understand what you mean Edvent. i get that a lot too, i know girls who will go on and on and on endlessly about how great their hair looks, how much fun they had partying the other night, what all clothes they bought the last time they went shopping, how the other girls they live with are always out to be mean to them, how their uni work is so boring, and if i as much as mention a little bit about what im doing in terms of coursework, they start rolling their eyes going: uhh you and your physics, spare us *walk away*.
but i have to say that not all of them are like that. some girls i know are very very intelligent and i enjoy spending time with them because i really can talk to them about anything.
so i think that it all bogs down to you finding people who are compatible with you. lets be honest, not everyone is a fan of shakespear, schiller and fontane. why go that far, closer to home, we are all fans of japanese music and culture, we all know that everyone is not as open minded about enjoying music from other countries.
but i do agree with you, girls can be just as immature as guys, if not more but us guys, we can't live without them, so i guess we should just take the higer road, shut up and adapt ... let them believe they are more mature than we are, (ladies, im kidding... or am i  )
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| yuko |
| Posted: Apr 09, 2006 10:20 am |
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ユメクイ
Joined: 24 Jun 2005
Posts: 1141
Location: italy
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I think that not all teenagers boys are immature... but I think they're cute even if they are a little immature
I'm not sure the boy I love is immature or not, sometime he's so and sometimes no, but I think it's good so.
Am september when my school started we wasn't so friends... but now we're more, I'm so happy for it
Now he dunno I love him, but maybe he thinks so coz a friend said him something about it > - < but I've never told "I love u" to him, I'm not sure I can...I'm too shy and I think if he'll reply "no" our friendship will finish or we will stop to speak. |
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| and_etude |
| Posted: Apr 10, 2006 1:12 pm |
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上塩タン焼680円
Joined: 24 Nov 2005
Posts: 287
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| Nope. Still single, and not really looking unless something happens. I dunno, I prefer to be in the company of friends rather than boyfriend. Maybe the right one will come along. |
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| LVXS |
| Posted: Apr 10, 2006 2:07 pm |
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上塩タン焼680円
Joined: 05 Dec 2005
Posts: 322
Location: Canada
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haha wow lots of good insight here... wish i had this a few years ago haha
i guess the only thing i can say is that communication in a relationship is very important haha because everyone knows that a relationship is two-sided!
it's important to maintain a connection between you and your significant other!! when you're communicating, both sides are giving and i guess that's definately important...
when one side is taking too much from the other, it's hard to maintain the balance in the relationship and things might go sour...
thanks for your good words of advice though everyone!! and i hope those of you who are thinking about relationships and stuff don't lose sight of the important things!!
sorry i can't give anything more useful than that haha
i don't think i was ever very good at the whole relationship thing T_T and i'm so sorry to that person for that T_T |
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| orange_ka |
| Posted: Apr 11, 2006 10:04 am |
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ユメクイ
Joined: 01 Jul 2005
Posts: 1117
Location: *mentally in: yamapi/keita's world*
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LVXS wrote: when one side is taking too much from the other, it's hard to maintain the balance in the relationship and things might go sour...
I totally agree, the word "balance" is really important in a relationship. As well as communication too, it does take two side to maintain the balance and to communicate.
Just asking for random opinions, don't you guys think (ok, I'm asking the girls here ) sometimes its hard to know what excatly a guy is thinking? Especially the ones who treats you REALLY nicely (like he is your bf), but didn't really tells you that he likes you? As you guys could tell, I'm in the situation right now... Some of my friends said its fun at this current stage, where you're guessing each other's mind....but I just find it kinda frustrating. Sorry guys, just me blabbling randomly here. |
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