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| KerushiiAi |
 Posted: Jul 08, 2007 6:28 pm |
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Joined: 09 Oct 2006
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Location: USA
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@ Rinoa
Yeah, I'm in the thicket of my high school years right now, so although it's summer, I have to deal with all that gossip and backstabbing like, now.  This past school year has been total murder in that sense. Luckily, I mean, I feel bad saying it because she's like, my friend you know, but anyways, she won't be going to our school next year.
Like, she was fun to hang out with and all, but sometimes, she would just snap! No provocation. It seemed like it was her life's mission to pry me and my best friend apart, because she wanted me to be her best friend. So she would find mine and my best friend's weaknesses and exploit them. Like, the most recent time, she started spreading rumors that my best friend was a lesbian, so my best friend like, became afraid to be seen with me, and we hardly spoke to each other at school for like, a week or 2. Also, she had spread rumors about my best friend dating one of her male friends (contradicting what she did earlier) and of course, she wasn't dating him. *Sigh* That was just from May and June, it goes back to about January with her.
With this other girl (who I'm really good friends with now) she used to be best friends with my current best friend, but she started getting jealous because my best friend was becoming friends with me. So she would say bad stuff about me behind my back, but luckily not at school because she really isn't a mean person. But then, she stopped hating me and started hating my best friend because she figured out that I was totally oblivious to what was going on, and it wasn't my fault. *Starts breathing again* Man, this is confusing without using names.... 
Oh, and the bottling up emotions thing? Yeah, I do that. But, not on purpose. I really can't control it. I've tried, but I can't. I'm a nervous wreck most of the time, and on school nights it takes me forever to go to sleep. Oh, and you know the friend that won't be going to my school next year? Well, it seemed like every time she would wait until I was at my bursting point before making me miserable. I've exploded on her a few times before, but I think the last time was the worst. She wouldn't speak to me afterwards for a day or so, not like I cared though because I was still mad at her. Oh man, I'm totally venting...
@ octocoffee
Haha, I remember that episode! 
So of the activities that you use to release stress, which would you say is the most effective? Because I definitely need an outlet. I'm always drumming my fingers and bouncing my legs without even realizing until someone tells me to stop. Though it does burn calories.
I think perception is definitely a factor. Girls seem to be more aware of body language, and they're better at reading in between the lines to decipher a hidden message. Or, at least, what they think the person is trying to say. 
@ Egore
Me too! Have you ever talked to someone over like, IM or something, and they make it totally obvious they're doing something else, and they're like, hardly paying attention to what you're saying? It's incredibly annoying! One time I yelled at my best friend for doing it, hahah
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Also, awhile ago, I was watching this TV special about the differences in the brains of males and females, and one boy (on the show) asked why girls always go to the bathroom in groups. Well, one reason the answering guy gave was to pass each other toilet paper in case there isn't any. Another, was to hold purses.  Ok, but finally, when girls do things like, do each other's hair and makeup and such, there's something released in the body, like a chemical or something, and it's the same one that's released like, when a junkie takes a hit. So, it's kinda a natural high. That's what he said, but I dunno. 
Why do we always hear about girls being insecure and having low self-esteem? I mean, surely there are guys that are insecure, right? |
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| Egore |
| Posted: Jul 08, 2007 8:40 pm |
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さくらんぼ
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
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Location: West Lafayette Indiana
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Well KerushiiAi, I think it all really depends on what country you come from when you look and observe self-esteem in men and women. If you take a country like the United States, for example, you'll easily find men and women with low self-esteem. And I would guess that the ratio between men and women may be about equal. Or maybe to put it a better way (so as to not appear like I'm generalizing...another thing I hate), men and women in the US have an equal chance of gaining a low self-esteem. Men are not any more likely to gain a low self-esteem than women, and vice versa. I've met really shallow and hurtful people here in the States. And it's not more dominant in one sex than the other, it's more of a personality and moral issue. Some people have low self-esteem because someone put them down so that they could appear stronger and smarter or whatever. Some put others down for the fun of it. And both men and women have their own little ways of doing that.
But if you take a country in Asia, like Japan or Korea, where it still is somewhat of a male dominated society (from what I hear from friends who live there), then yes, you will hear more about how women are feeling insecure than how men are feeling the same. Men need to appear as dominant, and they can't do that if they're looking like a pansy. Which is why you don't hear about it as much (once again, depending on your culture). But there are definitely insecure males out there, and ones with low self-esteem (those two things are not the same). And also, if you're a female, then you're obviously going to hear about more insecurities with other females than with males. Hence, you won't hear so much about the guys.
And to answer what you said, I definitely know what you mean. I hate it when you're trying to chat with someone (over the internet), and they make it so painfully obvious that they're trying to get rid of you when you're just trying to have a good time. They'll just say "yes", "no", or "lol" to everything you say. Oh yeah, and don't forget "yeah." They always pull that one on me. I'm quite guilty of it too, though....hehe. Wait, that means I hate myself then...dang it. |
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| KerushiiAi |
| Posted: Jul 08, 2007 10:36 pm |
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^ Hmm...I guess that's true. But I suppose it's more stereotypical to hear about females who are insecure or have low self-esteem.
Yeah, and that makes sense. But maybe, the guys are insecure or have low self-esteem, they just try to hide it a lot more so they don't appear wussy or something. So they come off as the dominant type because that's what their society is requiring of them.
Oh man, yeah, I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite since I do it sometimes myself, but that's usually when I'm already talking to like, 5 people and then another jumps in, you know? But after awhile I tell the person that I'm already talking to a million people and that I can't talk to them at the moment. So...yeah. |
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| Rinoa |
| Posted: Jul 09, 2007 2:43 pm |
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Joined: 14 Apr 2005
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Egore: ha good one I guess since both are so related they come up in a conversation more frequently. I had certain relationships were I felt more like a babysitter than a girlfriend which is naturally a huge turn-off. It's like I was always the one having the say in what happens.
KerushiiAi: High school can be annoying in that part. Like some girls can get into petty situations like being who's best friend. It's really obnoxious. I suppose I'm not the kind to play these mind games because I'm too straightforward and thus high school was kinda troublesome for me.
To release emotions find a sport, game or something to reduce stress. It's important, otherwise you'd become miserable with stress and worry. Exploding is a good thing. I did it too sometimes and people deserve it when they cause trouble. |
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| seiji-kun |
| Posted: Jul 09, 2007 3:03 pm |
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桃ノ花ビラ
Joined: 06 May 2007
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Aw...do I have to pick only one thing for each? Oh well...I'll bend the rules just a little.
Likes:
- Tennis
- Fun, easy-going people, and hanging out with them
- Japanese culture and music
- Learning Japanese and Korean
Dislikes:
- People who try to be know-it-all's; I thought it would end in college, but people still try to spit out counter-remarks or personal input to professors in the middle of class, and correct them on inane things, when it was clearly not needed. That, or when students think they're better than the rest of the class.
- People who say that emotion is illogical. Guh....be a robot instead? I mean, it may be so sometimes, but you can't say that all of it is.
Uhhh...haha, I think that's all I can come up with for now. Sorry if I went off topic or anything. Now to run off and study Managerial Accounting again! |
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| octocoffee |
| Posted: Jul 09, 2007 4:06 pm |
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Joined: 24 Jun 2007
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Location: USA
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Rinoa wrote: High school can be annoying in that part. Like some girls can get into petty situations like being who's best friend. It's really obnoxious.
I know what you mean. That's why I don't call my friends "a best friend". For some reason it means "I own you and I control your every action and if you're best friends with someone else than you can't be my best friend unless she's another one of my best friends" at my school. It's so confusing. >.<
seiji-kun wrote: - People who try to be know-it-all's; I thought it would end in college, but people still try to spit out counter-remarks or personal input to professors in the middle of class, and correct them on inane things, when it was clearly not needed. That, or when students think they're better than the rest of the class.
Ooh, those people bug me too. Wait...I have to continue dealing with those people in college?  Then why are they called "the best years"? |
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| davedim |
| Posted: Jul 09, 2007 4:31 pm |
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Joined: 24 Oct 2006
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I'll list a few things that I like and dislike.
Likes
- Music
- Philosophy
- Poetry
- Activism
Dislikes
- Capitalism
- Racism
- Religion
- Borders
- Poverty
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| seiji-kun |
| Posted: Jul 10, 2007 12:01 am |
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桃ノ花ビラ
Joined: 06 May 2007
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Scratch my previous pet-peeves. Something tonight reminded me of what really can get on my nerves. Ex's. Some are okay, I'm good friends with some. But then there's always the one who can still give you hell.
I get a phone call tonight by her...and she expected to get things from me after 2 months of not talking. And then at the end, saying, "Oh, well okay I'm gonna go hook up with my friend." Good job, you're really making a good image for yourself. At least I tried talking to you, and this is how I get treated.
Sorry guys and gals, this sounds more like a rant, but it really is something that really ticks me off. That phnee call just reminded me of what can really get me riled up.
But don't worry, there's always a happy thing, and that's friends! They're great. J-music still rocks my socks as well~  |
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| seiji-kun |
| Posted: Jul 10, 2007 9:12 pm |
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桃ノ花ビラ
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octocoffee wrote:
Ooh, those people bug me too. Wait...I have to continue dealing with those people in college? Then why are they called "the best years"?
Well, not every class has one, but you'll end up with one in at least a few of your classes during your college life. Even with that, college can still be the best years of your life, for the fact that you're more independent and you don't have to worry about too much yet, before being thrown out into the real world. Just have fun in college, and try not to worry about problems too much. You'll meet a lot of interesting people, and you'll make good friends during your college life. You'll learn a lot of life's lessons too. From first-hand experience, I can tell you for sure that I did. As a result of that, I feel like a stronger person. Like I said, don't worry about it, you'll enjoy college~ |
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| KerushiiAi |
| Posted: Jul 10, 2007 11:02 pm |
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@ Rinoa
Yes. It's extremely obnoxious. Well, at least I'm done with my first year!
Haha, yeah, exploding can be fun sometimes and it's a great way to release stress, but to the great misfortune of those that you blow up on. Although, a lot of times they're the ones who brought it upon themselves. Not always though... 
I was gonna do a sport, but I had the flu all during the tryouts for it.  Oh well. Games are good, only there's so much bloody schoolwork there's hardly anytime for fun and games. 
@ octocoffee
Haha, yeah, that's a good way to avoid conflict. It's already too late for me. I have a best friend, and she knows, and so does everyone else. Oh well, too bad. 
@ seiji-kun
Oo, that is pretty rough. Luckily, I don't have any ex's to deal with.
Oh, and by the way, you aren't really supposed to double post. You can just reply to everyone in one post, like I have. And if you come back later wanting to say something more and you're the last post still, just use that handy "edit" button on the top of your post. Remember to read the rules!  |
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| KeiriiAnnu |
| Posted: Sep 16, 2007 3:07 pm |
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Happy Days
Joined: 12 Sep 2007
Posts: 128
Location: Canada
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hahaha
the thing that ticks me off is:
being treated as if I am stupid or born yesterday (my sister treats me like that a lot) it bugs me so much
the thing that makes me happy:
My boyfriend Tristan! He is the only person on the planet that makes me feel so happy that I cant even find words for it.  |
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